I’m sorry it’s taken me a bit of time to respond to your question.
We’re currently 24-7 because I have the luxury of having him live with me for quite a while. We’re a formerly casual long distance relationship that’s become a lot closer recently.
We do have a few rules that I care a lot about and some habits/rituals that are meant to keep us connected throughout the day. I’ll list a few here for you.
- He’s not allowed to remove his collar. It’s locked on him at all times. He comes to me to remove it before a shower and returns to me to put it back on once he’s dried off.
- He is to kneel and wait for me at the door when he hears me come home.
- He is to worship my body first thing in the morning. He starts at my neck and works his way down to my feet. (This has been a lovely way to start the day.)
- He’s not allowed to masturbate without my permission. Related: He’s in chastity by default. If I remove his cage, I’m the first one who gets to touch his cock. Not him.
I also have a simple rule for both of us to follow. We’re not allowed to hold anything back emotionally. If we have anything to say, we say it. This promotes early and open discussion between us and it’s really helped us become closer.
These rules have changed and evolved over time. I’m sure they’ll change some more as well. I’ve made them to suit our desires and needs.
I think that’s a major thing to consider when writing your rules. Make them specifically for you. Think about what your relationship needs while writing them. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try something new. Don’t be afraid to adjust or throw out a rule that doesn’t work. You may even find that rules aren’t your thing! I know that I haven’t always needed or wanted them in my past relationships.
I adore what our rules bring to this relationship. They really suit us and I’m excited to see how the rules will change in the future.
Oh, one more tip. I like writing and adjusting the rules when I’m turned on. It puts me in a great mindset for coming up with wonderfully sexy rules and ideas for new rituals for us. I revisit them again later to make sure I haven’t come up with something too unreasonable. Then again, some of the more unreasonable ones are the best. ;)
I hope some of this was useful for you and thanks for writing in with such an interesting question! I wish you the best of luck with your rules and your relationship!